First, stop trying to be happy, you will just create a state of trying. Many of us are stuck in stories or believe these stories are who we are rather than being learning tools. Stories always project happiness into the future, not the present. Our egos will never allow us to be happy now.
In order to be happy we need to make peace with the ‘now moment’ focusing on ‘what is’ rather than ‘what is not’. Happiness will not take place anywhere else. Once we connect with presence, through our free will we can make other decisions from the past. Let our mantra be “Being one with life is being one with now.” We are mastering the truth that we do not live our lives but our life lives us. Life is the choreographer, and we are the dance steps.
Soon we shall come to know that our personal histories, which are a bundle of emotions, and thoughts, can become secondary and they are no longer who we think we are. They are just the way we have chosen to learn what we need to learn, the way we need to learn it. We come to know our presence is stronger than any emotion, thought or story.